Family. It’s such a blessing to us! The way to ensure that it operates in the way it was designed is to go to the Bible to find out what is expected of each part.


ROBERT >> The last couple of weeks on The Truth In Love we’ve been talking about the family. And today I want to publicly thank God for my mom, for her love, for her sacrifices, her devotion to our family. She is among my greatest gifts from God. And I want to thank God for my mother-in-law, because without her, I would not have my wife. And I want to thank God for my wife, the mother of our children. I’ve been so blessed. I want to thank God for the many mothers who are bringing their children up in the Lord, for all you faithful Christian mothers who have had such influence upon your children for Christ. I want to thank God for all of you women who may not be mothers, but still mother us all because that’s who you are. God made us male and female. We’re different. You ladies have been made to give birth, to nourish children, to carry them, to be mothers to them. Physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, you are our mothers. You bring to the home, to the church, to the world what men cannot. You are valuable and important. We’re not complete without you. We thank God for you. We love and appreciate you for who you are and what you all mean to us, to the church, and to the Lord.

>> Speaking the truth, speaking the truth, speaking the truth, speaking the truth in love.

ROBERT >> Though I have certainly been blessed with a wonderful family, I don’t want to act like everything is great with all our families. It wasn’t too long ago that I attended a funeral of a dear mother, and her family grieves greatly because of their loss. And some of you have lost your mother. Some of you mothers have lost your children. And some of you have not been good mothers. Some of you do not or cannot have children. Some of you are very disappointed in your children. I get it. And if I don’t get it, God certainly does.

So let’s talk about the family some more today. Let’s remember that it’s God who gave us family. Family is the very foundation of our society. When we go back to the very beginning of the Bible and we read about the creation of the male and the female, in Genesis chapter 2 we have a little more detail because here it tells us in verse 18,” And the Lord God said, It is not good that man should be alone. I will make him a helper comparable to him.”

“ After making man from the dust of the ground and breathing into his nostrils the breath of life” as we read in Genesis 2:7,

God saw that he was not complete, that the man needed a helper that was comparable to him. And so he caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he performed the very first surgery. And from the man’s side he took a rib, and from that he made the woman. And he brought her to the man. And the man said, This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. Because she has been taken out of man, she shall be called woman.

And it’s right here that God gave us these words in Genesis 2:24, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”

Here is the foundation of our society, a man and a woman coming together in marriage. This was God’s idea. And here we see that the family is a great gift from God. I love how the Psalmist rejoices over this in Psalm 127 and 128. Let me just read a couple of verses from these Psalms for you today.

Psalm 127:1 reminds us,” Unless the Lord builds the house, they labor in vain who build it.”

And then he says in verse 3, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord; the fruit of the womb is a reward.”

In Psalm 128 he pictures the family in the home. In verse 3 he says, “Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine and the very heart of your house; your children like olive plants all around your table.”

And when he says in verse 6, “Yes, may you see your children’s children.”

What a wonderful gift from God that we have in the family. And today we celebrate family as we ought to every day; but we also know that our families are not perfect, that we have failed God as husbands, as wives, as parents and children, that our families are not everything they should be. I know some families are greatly broken and some are hurting badly. Some are failing. And that’s why we take time today to try to bring some healing and help and reconciliation to our families, to bring love and hope back into our homes, to reconnect, to strengthen our connection with each other in the family.

The family is a vital part of the Lord’s church. And we want to be that church. We know that our mission is to share Jesus. And that begins in the family with mom and dad and the kids, and then it continues to our extended family, too. We know that we are to glorify God in the home, too. I want you to think about that first family. In Genesis chapter 2 we read about Adam and Eve and how God brought them together there in the Garden of Eden. But you know as you read on in chapter 3 how that the woman was deceived and how the man went along with it, and then we find them ashamed, hiding in the garden from God, and then God bringing the curse upon the man and upon the woman and upon this earth because of their sin. We noticed that she would have pain in child bearing, that she would desire to rule over her husband, but he would rule over her, that he would have to work hard to provide for them. Providing bread by the sweat of his brow, the scripture says.

And as we read on in the scriptures, we see that their firstborn murders their second born in a fit of jealous anger in the story of Cain and Abel in Genesis chapter 4. And then God blesses them with a third, Seth. But even then we know that in time all the world became very sinful, so much so that God brought a great flood upon this earth, saving only Noah and his family out of that old world. But it wasn’t long until they came off of that ark into the new world that man began to sin again.

And as we look down through time we see that we have all sinned, as the Bible says, and fallen short of the glory of God, Romans 3:23.

All of us are a part of that. All of us have contributed to that. We have made the mess that we see in this world, and we still have our problems today, yes; but let us know today that Jesus came to deliver us, to deliver us out of this world of sin and death, and to bring peace and harmony to the world, to bring peace with God, peace with one another, that same kind of peace that he wants for our homes.

Let’s remember that God promised a savior from the very beginning.

As soon as man sinned, he was promised by God one who would be born of the seed of the woman in Genesis 3:15. “That one would crush the head of the old serpent, Satan.”

He would destroy the devil and his works and provide for us salvation. And we know that one was Jesus Christ, born of the virgin Mary by the power of the Holy Spirit, the son of God we read about in Luke chapter 1.

He came into a family. He was raised in the city of Nazareth. The Bible tells us that he was subject to his parents as he grew up. His brothers, you might remember, wouldn’t believe on him, but he continued faithful to God throughout his life, even going to the cross for our sins. But he did not stay in the tomb. The good news is that Jesus rose again. He ascended back into heaven, where he lives forever in glory.

Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 15:1-4 that “this is the gospel, this is the good news by which we are saved, how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures, was buried and raised again the third day according to the scriptures.”

Because of Jesus Christ, we know that the price for our sins has been paid, that we have the hope and assurance of eternal life through the power of his resurrection. Because of him we can be forgiven, we can be set free from sin, Satan and death, to live for God. This is what Paul outlines for us in Romans 6:3-11. And I want you to notice this with me today because it tells us how that we obey the saving gospel. And it’s done when we identify with the death and the burial and the resurrection of Christ.

Let’s read together Romans chapter 6 beginning in verse 3. “Or do you not know that as many of us as were baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into His death? And therefore we were buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life. For if we have been united together in the likeness of His death, certainly we also shall be in the likeness of His resurrection, knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin. For he who has died has been freed from sin.”

In fact, Paul goes on to say in verse 8 that we also shall live, and in verse 9 that death no longer has dominion over us; and in verse 12, “Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body, that you should obey it in its lust.”

You see here in this passage, when we realize what Jesus has done for us, then we’ll give ourselves to him in baptism. Here we are united with Jesus Christ, being baptized into Christ. We identify with his death. As he died for our sin, we die to sin. As he was buried, we are buried with him, that old man of sin. And as he was raised up the third day, so we are raised up out of the waters of baptism to live a new life now having been set free, no longer under the bondage of sin, but now alive for God. Let’s bring all of that home this morning.

That sacrificial love, that forgiveness, that patience and humility that we see in our Lord Jesus Christ, how he served us through leaving heaven and coming to this earth and dying for us. Let’s bring that service and that forgiveness and that love to our family relationships.

Let’s submit in obedience to God’s will for the home and quit trying to do it our own way. The Bible was given to us to help us with everything in our life, and it provides for us a manual for the family. Let’s read it. Let’s study it. Let’s listen to what God says. Maybe we could start today with marriage and quit the fornicating and playing house without marriage that so many are involved in in our world today.

In Hebrews 13:4 the Bible reminds us that, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”

Yes, when we take sex out of marriage, then we are committing fornication and adultery. We need to begin where God begins, coming together as husband and wife so that he can make us one.

Let’s remember also that marriage is between a husband and wife. It’s not for those of the same sex.

We read in Genesis 2:24 how after God had made the man and made the woman and brought them together he said, “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh.”

Let’s remember that God binds us together for life. Let’s quit looking for a way out of our marriages. Let’s start looking for a way to make them work.

The law of Christ in Matthew 19:6 tells us that, “Whoever puts away his wife except for fornication and marries another commits adultery.” That’s Matthew 19:9.

Jesus had already said in verse 6,” What God has joined together, let no man put asunder.”

God wants us to do everything that we can to make our marriages work. Let’s see also what God says about our roles in the home as wives and husbands, parents and children. For example, in Ephesians chapter 5 and chapter 6 he outlines for us how it is that we’re to relate to one another in the family.

Here in Ephesians chapter 5 he first speaks to you wives, verse 22. “Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is head of the wife as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the savior of the body.”

And therefore just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Paul goes on then to speak to you husbands. “He says, Husbands, love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her. “

In verse 28 he says, So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies. “He who loves his wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it just as the Lord does the church.”

And then he concludes this section in verse 33. “ Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

Wives, quit trying to rule over your husbands, and submit to his spiritual leadership. Encourage him and support him in being the kind of man that God would have him to be. God’s not telling you to let some ogre walk over you like a floor mat, but to support and encourage your husbands in the way of the Lord.

And you husbands, love your wives. Nourish and cherish them. Live with them with consideration, honoring them, not abusing them.

Let me read this passage from 1 Peter 3:7, again reminding us of our relationship as husbands and wives. Here he speaks to the husbands in 1 Peter 3:7 saying, “Husbands likewise dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.’

You see, your relationship in the home with your wife, husbands, will affect your relationship with God. It’ll cut off our prayers. And so we need to do everything that we can to consider our wives, to honor our wives, not abusing them, but living together in the love of Jesus Christ.

Children, you, too, are called upon in the scriptures to relate with your parents with respect and with obedience. For example, in Ephesians the 6th chapter the apostle Paul tells the children to “obey their parents in the Lord, for this is right. It’s the first commandment with promise, to honor your father and your mother, and it’ll be well with you, and you’ll live long on the earth.”

So show them that respect, show them that obedience, children, and quit acting like a spoiled brat and grow up in the Lord.

You parents, parents, love your children enough to train them in the way they should go as the Bible says in Proverbs 22:6.

Practice the proverbs that teach us God’s way of raising kids, instructing them in the fear and wisdom of the Lord, using the rod of correction, not abuse; not sparing that rod, but disciplining early on and consistently, teaching them obedience.

As Paul said in Ephesians 6:4, “You fathers do not provoke your children to wrath, but nurture them in the chastening and admonition of the Lord.”

Let’s all take God’s principles of how to treat each other in the home with us like the golden rule of Matthew 7:12. Let’s treat each other in the home like we want to be treated. “Whatever you would that men should do to you, do you even also unto them.”

If we’ll bring that golden rule home, it’ll make all the difference in the world in our relationships with one another in the family. Let’s practice Ephesians 4:32-33. This verse is about our attitudes and how we bring those attitudes to our relationships.

Here’s what the apostle Paul writes here, Ephesians 4, beginning in verse 31: “Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice, and be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”

Those attitudes that need to be put away, those hateful attitudes and those attitudes that need to be brought into our heart and into our life, those attitudes of love and forgiveness.

Let’s confess our faults to one another and let’s pray for one another like James says in chapter 5 and verse 16. This is how we bring help and healing and reconciliation and strength to our families. This is how we glorify God in our homes. This is how we fulfill our mission of sharing Jesus, helping each other get to heaven. This is how we be that church by connecting with family. Sometimes Jesus seems to be the crux of the problem for some families instead of the solution. But that’s only because some refuse to let him help them.

Do you remember his words in Matthew 10:34-39? Let me read this to you today. The Bible says, and these are the words of Jesus, “Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and a man’s enemies will be those of his own household. He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me, and he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me; and he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.”

Yes, Jesus Christ is the prince of peace, and he did come to bring peace on earth and goodwill towards men according to Luke the 2nd chapter, the announcement, you remember, at his birth. But there are some who don’t want that peace, and they hate him, and they continue to hate him today. And because of that they’re going to hate you, me, who follow him. And yet we need to realize that these are the very ones for which Jesus died. He died for all of us, for even his enemies. He loved them anyway. And so should we love even those of our own family that may become our enemies.

Why? Because we love him most. When we love him most, it’s going to make us a better family member. Loving Jesus more does not make us love them less, but it helps us to love them more and to love them better. Because of Jesus we will seek to be better family members, giving ourselves in an effort to save their souls, connecting with family for their sake and for the sake of the church and for Jesus’ sake, for God’s glory.

The answer to life is so simple. When it comes to our lives out in the workplace, when it comes to our lives out in the community and at school and in all our relationships of life and in our own families in our homes, the answer to life is simple.

It’s what Jesus said here that we just read in Matthew 10:39. Lose your life for Jesus’ sake, and you’ll find it. You give yourself up for Jesus, you turn your life over to Jesus, he’ll give it back to you brand new. He’ll help to restore what’s broken. He’ll bring healing and he’ll bring hope.

If you need that help, if you want to be saved, if you want to come back to God and to his church, whatever your need, let us know here at The Truth In Love how we can help you towards heaven today.

SINGING>> No tears in heaven, no sorrows given,
all will be glory in that land.
There’ll be no sadness,
all will be gladness when we shall join that happy band.
No tears in heaven fair, no tears, no tears up there.
Sorrow and pain will all have flown.
No tears in heaven fair, no tears, no tears up there,
no tears in heaven will be known.
Glory is waiting, waiting up yonder
where we shall spend an endless day.
There with our savior we’ll be forever
where no more sorrow can dismay.
No tears in heaven fair,
no tears, no tears up there. Sorrow and pain will all have flown. No tears in heaven fair, no tears, no tears up there.
No tears in heaven will be known.
Some morning yonder we’ll cease to ponder
o’er things this life has brought to view.
All will be clearer,
loved ones be dearer in heaven where all will be made new.
No tears in heaven fair,no tears, no tears up there.
Sorrow and pain will all have flown.
No tears in heaven fair,
no tears, no tears up there.
No tears in heaven will be known.

SINGING>> I’m kind of homesick for a country to which I’ve never been before.
No sad good-byes will there be spoken,
for time won’t matter anymore.
Beulah land, I am longing for you,
and someday on thee I’ll stand where my home shall be eternal,
Beulah land, sweet Beulah land.
I’m looking now across the river where my faith will end in sight.
There’s just a few more days to labor,
then I will take my heavenly flight.
Beulah land, I am longing for you,
and someday on thee I’ll stand where my home shall be eternal,
Beulah land, sweet Beulah land.

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SINGING>> Above thee watching, he whom we adore shall keep thee henceforth, yea, for evermore.

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